What Are the Essential Characteristics of a Good Parent?
Many parents take interest in proper upbringing issues because it is a complicated task for today’s parents to bring up a well-adjusted, sociable, talented, and stable individual. We often ask ourselves if we are good parents and foster our children in a right way. Any comparison is useless because every family has its own microclimate and life, belongs to a definite social group, has its specific spiritual values, inner relationships, lifestyle, traditions etc. Something that is good for one person may cause trouble to another.
Some parents bring up their kids by their intuition, and they’re right, since every pedagogical method is beyond any advice. It is very important to live in harmony with ourselves, only in this case we can help our children achieve inner harmony. Good parents don’t have to be perfect and follow stereotypes of “good parents” that are being promoted in a society. Psychologists and parents agree that even if there are no universal recommendations for a child’s upbringing, there are a few indisputable rules for a good parent:
- never humiliate the child, especially in the presence of other people. It can essentially reduce self-esteem and influence immature psyche of a child;
- always give the child the right to choose and to make mistakes as it will help develop his/her independence when making important decisions;
- never scream at the child;
- never compare the child with other children, otherwise, he or she can spend their life chasing after a non-existent ideal;
- control one’s emotions when talking to the child, be logical and fair;
- don’t suppress the child’s personality, help the child reveal it;
- never use any pressure, treat the child as an equal at any age, find the time for communication with the child every day, take interest in his or her likes and dislikes; provide the child with a reasonable freedom that will help him gain confidence in life;
- always show affection to the child, especially when you are dissatisfied with his or her behavior or actions, it is very important to make it clear that discontent was provoked by their behavior or an action, not the personality of the child as a whole;
It is quite obvious that being a good parent is a lot of work. Your whole life may be needed to fulfill this mission. It is worth to remember that disobedience is a sign that you’re doing something wrong. Listen to your children, love them, and you will always be the best parents for them.Share